Tis a New Year and the optimal time for reflection and looking at what’s ahead. In this first week of January everyone seems to be setting goals. “Goals for 2015″ posts are popping up all over, inspirational quotes flood social feeds, I mean, I’m watching someone jog in a blizzard from my window right now. In the past I have always been one of those people who writes a personal and professional goal list for the new year. My life is lists, really. I list what’s on my agenda for the day, I list what I need at the super market, I have listing apps, listing notebooks, you name it. But this year, I’ve decided to approach 2015 a little differently. No goal lists. I’m setting one for myself and that is to try to live in the now. I typically try to keep things light around here but this is about to get a little heavy so if you’re interested in my ramblings read on…
The truth is, these past few weeks heading into the New Year have been turbulent to say the least. My boyfriend and I have been talking a lot about THE FUTURE (*gulp*), I’m beginning to fully feel the significance of this time in my life and the time I have left with those I love, and finally I made a big decision to leave a job I enjoyed.
All of the above has prompted a lot of soul shaking questions. What do you want to do in life? Where do you see yourself in five years? How are you going to get there? And the truth is, I don’t know, and for the first time in my life I’m realizing that’s okay. My whole life I’ve been looking around the corner, wondering what’s ahead and trying to prepare myself for it or worse, looking back at decisions I’ve made and wondering whether it was the right thing. It took these past few weeks for me to finally slow the hell down, gaze around and realize just how great life truly is, right now.
I know these are issues almost everyone struggles with, but when it comes down to it, doesn’t it feel like you’re the only one? Below is a quote my mom has been carrying around since college. She gave it to me when I was questioning, well, close to everything. It really delivered some clarity for me and I hope it does the same for you if you find yourself struggling with similar situations.
So instead of listing what my plans are for the new year, I’ve decided to list what I’ve learned from these past few weeks of clarity (hey, I said no goal lists–I’m not about to neglect lists entirely, that would just be crazy).
1. You don’t have to have a perfect life plan to be happy. In fact, where is the fun in that? I know I want to do great things and I know that will lead to even greater things and that’s enough for me. The rest will come with time.
2. Your family and friends really matter most. They are the ones that will still be there when the rest of life throws you a curve ball. Your relationships will evolve and people may move, but hold onto those that truly matter and embrace all the time that you share together.
3. Professional break-ups are much like personal break-ups. It’s so easy to remember the great things about the partnership and dismiss all the downfalls. I’ll miss a lot about my previous job but the truth is, I wasn’t full-filled the way I once was when working on new product concepts. What’s important is I learned a lot and I plan to take those findings with me and apply them on my next venture.
So that’s my list for 2015. Closing one chapter and starting a new one. I’d love to hear your aspirations for the new year and can’t wait to see what it holds for all of you!